Money block fear: will people not like me if I make a lot of money?
My husband was begging for me to succeed as I was sabotaging my success because I thought that would “keep him comfortable”...😮😮😮
Let’s talk about this money mindset block:
Someone I love will get uncomfortable if I succeed
My husband is one amazing man, the kind of man who is kind, intelligent, grounding, but who also holds massive space for me to succeed.
He's always seen what I was capable of.. even sleeping on my moms couch at 20.. he could see that I was destined for bigger, better things and would always remind me of that.
When I started this business.. I noticed I would have these moments.. just these little moments of doubt + fear creep up, and they would whisper things like:
🤔"you know if you make too much money, your husband will get uncomfortable"
🤔"you know if you make too much money.. everyone will leave you"
🤔"if you make that much money.. then you'll outshine everybody and that will make everyone feel awkward and you don't want other people to feel like shit right?"
Now not only have I battled this money block but I see this as the most frequent money block for women not getting to new levels...
Worry of outshining your friends and family
Here's the funny part: my husband at this time was like you are capable of so much more.. why are you holding yourself back? I know what you can do, I've seen what you can do!
What's stopping you from keeping up the momentum?
All I could think was.. “I don't want you to leave me if I become too big!”
There it was out loud.. and you know what I did after I said out loud? I laughed, because it sounded so ridiculous, but this belief was still calling all the shots on my ACTIONS or lack of ACTION in my business.
You might be thinking.. Shannon what the fuck is a money block though?
As you can see from this scenario, my belief about money was dictating my action and lack of action in my business.
Because my belief was: “if I make too much money my relationships will be ruined.”
Well then my action was to:
not show up on social media
not do posts that were engaging and powerful
not sell programs and really go full on with a launch
give up on a launch halfway through
have a big money month and spend all the money never repeat it again
A money block does exactly what it says.. blocks you from making more money.
It’s not something that’s obvious or even conscious, they’re tricky.
They’re hidden in our mindset and take a lot of awareness around who we are to uncover them.
We might blame outside things for reasons why we’re not making more money.
“It’s my audience, they don’t buy!”
“It’s my business, no one spends that much in my type of business!”
“It’s that time of the year, no one buys at Christmas!”
I think you can see where I’m going here.
Our money blocks keep us safe from doing those things that feel scary. Our brain can’t tell the difference between jumping off a cliff and doing a Facebook live. Although to us it’s OBVIOUS haha how these 2 are different.
But the same fear, pounding heart, sweaty palms you get doing something like jumping off a cliff, feels the same for doing a Facebook live.
Our brains get into action and stop us.
This is why money mindset work IS SO IMPORTANT. I could not believe how much I was holding myself back when I stated doing money mindset work.
I went from believing my audience didn’t buy and that my audience was too small…to having a $32,000 month with the SAME FREAKING AUDIENCE.
It was once I got out of my own way and convinced myself that it was okay to be visible and it was okay to charge accordingly and it was okay for me to make a lot of money! Guess what that involved doing?
SMASHING MY MONEY BLOCKS BROOO!
If you want to learn how I went from making $3K-$5K a month to $32,000 in 1 month: check out my free masterclass here.
This belief is so common in women and I think there’s so many examples we can find in our lives of why this belief exists. Whether it’s the Hallmark movies that always show a successful CEO who struggles to maintain a marriage or relationship.
Or whether it’s even us watching our favorite mentors or business women get divorced.
I remember in the first years of starting my business, this podcaster I loved announced she was getting a divorce and I swear my heart was pounding listening to this episode… worrying oh no will I have to get a divorce when I become too big?
Of course out loud it sounds silly but it’s still in there!
What do we do this block?
This block is real and it’s stopping you from taking the action to make your business successful.
Here’s how it could be showing up for you but not obvious:
Having a big money month and spending all the money that comes in
Having a big revenue month and not able to repeat it again
Not showing up on social media whether it’s posting or doing Facebook live’s, you find yourself unable to really get your message out there
Not talking about your business to any loved one’s.. they don’t even have a clue that you have a business!
Afraid to share your business with your family
How do I move past the block of fear of losing others as we go to new levels?
Relationships will change. Whether it’s due to money, moving, or different phases of life.
They will always be changing. That is life.
Think about the person you used to be best friends with 10 years ago? Do you have a different best friend now?
This is apart of growing and changing.
There were times in my life when I started making more money and I felt more drawn to different people and they were times when I was a brand new mom and I was drawn to different people.
It doesn’t mean you are losing people because now that you’re rich you’re a terrible person.
Your relationships have changed because you have changed as a person.
In order for all of us to get to new levels especially making levels of new money. We have to become someone different than who we used to be.
The girl who used to charge $997 for her coaching and who charged $10,000 for her coaching. They wouldn’t even recognize each other!
The woman I am now who used to constantly think that in order for her to make a lot of money she had to offer a lot of her time (cough: like giving 1:1 calls away as a bonus) is vastly different from the new mom I am now that knows her time is the most valuable thing she has.
See? How easy it was to see how silly this fear is?
The next layer of removing this belief is to:
program new one’s.
What do you want to believe about becoming rich and your relationships?
What will happen?
I can tell you as someone who recently became a millionaire.. I can tell you they get better.
Because you get better. You get better at all that icky relationship stuff.
Boundaries
being direct
apologizing
taking responsibility
self care
personal inner growth
finding strength.
All that stuff that makes you a better person, also makes you a RICHER person.
How fun is that?
This is JUST the over view, just the TIP of what money mindset work really looks like.
You probably are thinking things that I were like:
I’m not a productive person
I just need a better camera to start doing videos
It’s my audience that’s not buying
I need more followers before I can make real money in my business
GIRL, THESE ARE MONEY BLOCKS.
I have seen what is possible for my students and clients when they actually don’t believe these things anymore they go on to do things like:
If your like OKAY SHANNON I GET IT I GOT BLOCKS!
What do I do now?
Grab this journal here and watch as awareness around what you’re TRULY thinking about money unfolds:
I’ve put together all of the journaling prompts that helped me to get here in a 44 page journal.
In this journal I started to uncover all those crappy thoughts I was having around money that was causing me to:
undercharge for my work
not look at my bank accounts
not pay off debt
and not save money
In this journal you’ll learn:
Grab the questions that improved my income by $13K in 2 months
Learn what is the aligned action for you to go next level
Break through your limiting beliefs around why you're not making the BANK you want
Learn how I raised my prices by $8K and STILL booked clients
